Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Quote Of The Day: The Power Of Negative Thinking Edition

I've written before that I don't really view the world in "glass half full" or "glass half empty" dichotomies. In my world the glass is always cracked and leaking. At long last, someone has written a book that I might agree with. Oliver Burkeman who has written The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking has written a s New York Times op-ed that illustrates why positive thinking may not not be quite as wonderful as its supporters allege:
Though much of this research is new, the essential insight isn’t. Ancient philosophers and spiritual teachers understood the need to balance the positive with the negative, optimism with pessimism, a striving for success and security with an openness to failure and uncertainty. The Stoics recommended “the premeditation of evils,” or deliberately visualizing the worst-case scenario. This tends to reduce anxiety about the future: when you soberly picture how badly things could go in reality, you usually conclude that you could cope. Besides, they noted, imagining that you might lose the relationships and possessions you currently enjoy increases your gratitude for having them now. Positive thinking, by contrast, always leans into the future, ignoring present pleasures.
Buddhist meditation, too, is arguably all about learning to resist the urge to think positively — to let emotions and sensations arise and pass, regardless of their content. It might even have helped those agonized firewalkers. Very brief training in meditation, according to a 2009 article in The Journal of Pain, brought significant reductions in pain — not by ignoring unpleasant sensations, or refusing to feel them, but by turning nonjudgmentally toward them.
From this perspective, the relentless cheer of positive thinking begins to seem less like an expression of joy and more like a stressful effort to stamp out any trace of negativity. Mr. Robbins’s trademark smile starts to resemble a rictus. A positive thinker can never relax, lest an awareness of sadness or failure creep in. And telling yourself that everything must work out is poor preparation for those times when they don’t. You can try, if you insist, to follow the famous self-help advice to eliminate the word “failure” from your vocabulary — but then you’ll just have an inadequate vocabulary when failure strikes.
Even if I didn't agree with Burkeman's sentiments, I'd have to use this quotation because it contains the word rictus, a term I first encountered reading The Big Sleep one of my favorite novels:
“I knew that my mouth was open and the ache at the side of my jaws told me it was open wide and the strained back, mimicking the rictus of death carved upon the face of Harry Jones”


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